"I don't really like women" these are the words I confessed at a women's leadership meeting years ago in MN. As I type this blog, I can admit at the time I meant those words. Words spoken from a bruised and battered heart. At the ripe age of twenty-six I had encountered women of all ages, women that did not believe in Jesus and women who professed Jesus as their Lord. These women seemed intentionally cruel and hurtful. Did you catch the word seemed? Perspective and assumption are always a huge aspect of how we live and relate to others. When hurtful things happened to me at the hands of another women, I am quick to jump to the assumption it was intentional. The result was a hardened heart towards my gender.
It wasn't long before I approach most women with an expectation for hurt, and betrayal. Not the makings for great friendship. These beliefs lead to isolation and deep loneliness. God has begun a work within my heart. He has shown me, I to have hurt women. And my actions, have caused scars in others. The question is what do I need from others, mercy or judgement? I want mercy; so I must also learn to offer mercy to those who have hurt me. Seeing it is foolish to link an entire gender of women to the actions of a few. Today, I can admit I love all women; those who love Christ and those who do not. In all honesty it hasn't been an easy journey arriving at this belief. A road God helped me travel. When I encounter women acting in hurtful ways, It takes intentionality to reminder she represents herself, not all women. And she is just like me, a woman who needs a constant cover of mercy and grace.
I am reading Lisa Bevere's book Fight Like A Girl, and in chapter 2 she talks about this issue. Lisa writes, "I want to be the voice of a mother to the young, a friend to my sisters, a daughter to those who now rest awhile after so many years of dancing. I want to help women capture the beauty and strength of their life seasons. No matter what our present season or perspective , this cannot happen until we first learn to love one another and who we are as women."
Here is what God has to say about this, "Your job is to speak out on the things that make for solid doctrine. Guide older men into lives of temperance, dignity, and wisdom, into healthy faith, love, and endurance. Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives. We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior. Also, guide the young men to live disciplined lives." Titus 2:3,4 MSG
I pray I can honor God's Word, by loving His daughters. To be open to having mentors and being a mentor. It is important for me to be a good and open friend letting others in.
Life Is Beautiful!