I can hear that song's chorus going through my head over and over again. But, really what I need to be thinking is, that I need to be giving love. When the battle in all relationships is to want to receive love, and then I will love back. Over and over again, we hear couples on the brink of divorce, sharing why they can't or won't love their spouse anymore. He does this, or she does that. I get it, marriage is hard. And there really are some very legitimate issues that couples face. But, if we are really honest, most of us are giving a lot more grace to ourselves than we are to our spouses. We can justify our own actions; but when our partner does something that is less than desirable, watch out. When we are in the midst of first love, we choose to overlook the flaws in the person. And as time wears on, it gets harder and harder to "overlook" those issues we barely noticed in the beginning. But, let me clue you in on something; you have a butt load of issues too. And your partner has to choose to love you in spite of those issues as well. Hold on, don't stop reading because your mad that I said that. I am the first to admit, I'VE GOT ISSUES! Love is a choice. And when you and I chose to stand before God and our family and friends, we made a COVENANT, that said, "for better or worse". I know, I do not know what you are going through, and as I said before, this is not meant for major issues such as abuse and infidelity.
I want to lead you to 1 Corinthians 13
1 Corinthians 13
1 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b]but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Now, I am in love with my husband of 13 years. But we have had our differences within those years. And I can easily say, your not______________. I feel you don't____________. And I am confident he could easily fill in those blanks about me. So rather than stand here and look at what he is not doing right; I choose to stand here and ask myself; what can I do to show him how much I love him? How can I bless my husband today?
1Cor. 13 is a power house verse to show me where I really am at spiritually, in my marriage, and in my friendships. Until I am consistent in patience, kindness, guarding against envy,self promotion, pride, anger, and holding grudges; well, I guess, I have no business in looking at someone elses life, to point out where they fall short.
My challenge to you and myself, is to read 1 Cor. 13 everyday for 3 months. I think it will change my life and yours. I would love to hear feedback, if you choose to take this challenge. It's exciting and inspiring to hear what God is doing in the lives of people all over the world.
Life is Beautiful!!!